Anonymous asked:

Dos and donts on a first date?

universityofcock answered:

Great question! Here are the Dos and Don’ts I would use on a first date. Followers can add to it if they want, but I think this is what is best for me.

Before the date:

Do: Dress well and groom yourself. Showering, cleaning yourself up and picking nice clothes to wear goes a long way. I’m not saying dress up in a tuxedo, but at the same time, don’t dress up in torn jeans and a smelly shirt. 

Do: Pick a nice location where you two can get to know eat other. You may wanna go to a movie and to Starbucks after, or a nice diner. You don’t have to break the bank at a high scale restaurant, but you do want to at least get to know the person.

Don’t: Go to a loud gay bar. Save that for another date, when you two are more comfortable dancing with each other. You want to get to know them, and the last thing you need is to linger off with another guy.

Do: Have an exit strategy. Let’s face it, not all dates will end well. Know where you are going - and pick a public venue, not their house - let friends know, and have some sort of system in place in case the date is falling apart and you need to go. The second you feel uncomfortable, make your exit.

Do: Be on time for the date. The later you are, the less they think you care about them.

On the date:

Do: Be geniune. Listen and respond to what they say. If they are telling a story, be attentive and ask questions. If you don’t find their comments interesting, change up topics. If they still aren’t interesting to you, he might just be a friend. 

Do: Ask why! Matthew Hussey, the host of a successful iHeartRadio show on relationships always says to ask why people do what they do. Say your date says “I love to dance.” If you ask why, you will learn far more about them, and I’m sure “It is a great way to express myself and to relieve stress after work” is a much more interesting response to you than “I love the attention from all the boys.”

Don’t: Overshare. Give your date a taste of who you are and why you like doing what you are doing. But don’t talk about gross stories about that kid who pooped his pants in second grade.

Do: Make sure the date is equal. If you realize over time that he doesn’t really care about you and likes to talk about himself, acknowledge it.

Don’t: Talk about exes. Seriously, I don’t need to know why your ex was a maniac or that he had a foot fetish. 

Don’t: Text or talk on the phone in the middle of the date. The second you show they are not important, you have failed.

Don’t: Get hammered. If you want a cocktail, have one. But don’t have many and get sloshed. You want to be able to get home sober.

Do: Flirt when the moment feels right. During the course of the date, if things are going well, flirting will become natural. Likewise, if you are better off as friends, you will feel it. Go with that flow.

Don’t: Be a dick. Treat the servers with respect, treat your date with respect, and don’t stiff him with the bill. If HE’S being a dick, you wouldn’t like it, and you’d have every reason to leave, regardless of how hot he may appear.

After the date:

Do: Be honest about the date. If the date has ended halfway, you can tell them that you intended to meet them just for a brief time, and leave. Don’t promise to call them or anything. But if the date was a success, do see if you can plan a second date that is a few days away. 

Don’t: Be clingy. If they are perfect, don’t call them as soon as you get home or beg for a date the following night. Also, don’t cancel future plans to accomodate your date. Show that you have a life, and aren’t attached to them so quickly, or else they lose interest.

Don’t: Have sex on the first night. Just don’t. Give them a reason to want more. Besides, if you give up the farm on the first night, why the hell do they wanna buy the cow? 


Do: Leave a nice kiss for him to remember you for the next time.

Here are some great questions to ask on a first date. And follow up with “Why?”. But make them organic! This is a mutual date, not an interview.

1. Who has been the biggest influence in your life?
2. What kinds of things really make you laugh?
3. What’s your favorite place in the entire world?
4. Who is your best friend? What do you like about him/her?
5. Favorite movie of all time? Why so?
6. What’s your biggest goal in life right now?
7. What is your favorite way to spend a Saturday?
8. Do you have any pet peeves?
9. What was your family like growing up?
10. What were you like as a kid?
11. What should I know about you that I’d never think to ask about?
12. Did you—or do you—have a nickname? What’s the story behind it?
13. Who was your favorite schoolteacher or college professor? Why?
14. Have you figured out your calling in life? What is it?
15. What do you hate most about the dating process? (Tell me so I can avoid it!)